martes, 29 de septiembre de 2015

The Trampoline "belly dance"


Probably I should be the last person to speak about fusions as I consider myself to be a dancer whose let her imagination fly and get inspiration from fusions by incorporating non arab elements to my belly dance routines.

The Fusions started long ago, as belly dance became a global phenomenon, dancers from all over the world began to incorporate little things of their own culture, adding new steps and new flavours to the raqs sharki. The ATS (American Tribal Style) was one the main promoters of "the fusions" the bridge from the classical belly dance to the modern music with ethnic roots in the dancing. However in this last couple of years the belly dance has been used as a mere TRAMPOLINE to dance whatever thing comes in your mind with shimmies and camels to whatever music: Rock,  rap,  hip-hop, heavy metal etc... doesn't matter! the important is to keep up with the fashion of "doing fusions"!
As I mentioned before, maybe I'm the least indicated to point this fact out as my dance style is not pure arabic but, to use a "Rammstein" song, do some movements that I could do in any other melody, but just because this melody is not arabic, call it a "fusion" and name myself a creator of a new belly dance Style!.

I do not want we confuse the good fusions from the mediocre ones, cause I have seen amazing performances where they mix two different dancing styles with success. So, ¿What makes a good or bad fusion? the answer is: Imagination and creation.
Lets suppose you wanna make a hip-hop belly. The first step would be to learn hip-hop, get the essence  and moves of it, later add the belly dance, choose a good song for the matter and practice it!. Do not expect to put any type of music shake a bit and call it a fusion.

The belly dance is a disciple like any other dance style, and I'm in favor to add some foreigner elements to enhance it, but STOP using belly dance as a trampoline to make other dance styles., just because the belly dance is indulgent in age, anatomy and years of study wise  doesn't mean you have to use it to do what you couldn't did before.

In countries such as Russia or Ukraine exists a phenomenon called "Fantasy belly dance" which basically are  performances of the most unusual  combinations some of them are just AMAZING! some others....mm not so much. A performance of this style has a very thin line between the wonderful and the ridiculous, of course the perception of each one is different.In this article I'm just trying to  bring up the importance of belly dance by itself without any external contaminations but, if like me, you are the kind of girl who likes the  mixology , here are some tips which I found useful.

1.  Get the right music (This is the most important) take your time to find the perfect melody for your performance, this is a long process that can take weeks, even months to get it done, and many times you have to mix 2 or 3 different tracks to obtain what you need.

2.Use the right outfit: Leave the belly dance traditional bedla behind, what your gonna do is something unique! get costume to fit your performance,it will be part of the magic!

3.We suppose that the knowledge of belly dance is there, now, if you wanna do a fusion is time to take some classes about that particular style: hip-hop, jazz, tango, hawaian etc..

4.Try not to make an eteeeeernal performance, is better to leave the audience asking for more than make them bored with 8  or 12 min.

5.Before taking your performance to the stage, ask yourself : ¿Why do I want to dance this, and which is the reason for it? If you get answers such as: "Because this song of the bee gees is my favourite" or "I'm fan of iron maden and now fusions are in fashion so I will dance it".Think the following: ¿Is it coherent what I'm gonna dance with the music I have chosen?
The dance as universal language must be able to touch the heart or like from people around the world, doesn't matter where they come from, this is how a performance from Ukraine, Russia,Argentina, Brasil or any other country can be appreciate it and like in the rest of the world.

Thanks for reading this article, and I hope you find it useful!

Are you searching inspiration for fusion dances?check this names on youtube!
-Amir Thaleb (Oriental tango)
-Ebony (Hip-hop belly)
-Nadia Nikishenko (Fantasy Belly dance)
-Daniela Gómez (Salsa- belly )



 

domingo, 27 de septiembre de 2015

El trampolín "Belly dance"


Probablemente yo debería ser la última persona en hablar del tema de las fusiones en el Belly dance ya que me considero una bailarina que da rienda suelta a sus emociones y a lo que me inspira, hago fusiones e incorporo a mis rutinas elementos no-árabes.

El tema de las fusiones comenzó hace ya bastante tiempo, siendo el belly dance un fenómeno mundial, bailarinas de todos los rincones del planeta comenzaron a incorporar un poco  de su propia cultura dentro de este, dando como resultado una danza rica en estilos,  nuevos movimientos y nueva música, el ATS (American Tribal Style) fué uno de los principales promotores de la fusión, el "puente" entre el belly dance y la musica moderna con toques étnicos.Sin embargo en estos últimos años el Belly dance se ha comenzado a usar como un mero TRAMPOLÍN para bailar cualquier cosa con ondulaciones o shimmies, para usarlo con la musica que sea: Rock, rap, hip-hop, heavy metal, boleros,  etc.. lo mismo da! no importa! lo importante es estar a la vanguardia y hacer "fusiones".
Como mencioné antes.... tal vez soy la menos indicada ya que mi estilo no es puramente árabe sinembargo, no concibo la idea de bailar una canción del grupo "Rammstein" hacer lo mismo que haría en cualquier otra melodía y solo por tener una música ajena a la musica árabe, llamarla "fusión" y nombrarme creadora de un estilo!.

No quiero que confundamos las buenas fusiones de las mediocres, ya que asi como he visto cosas que a mi perspectiva  no son de buena calidad, también las hay grandiosas, pero ¿Que diferencia una buena de una mala fusión? La respuesta creo yo, esta en la preparación y en la imaginación.
Supongamos que deseas hacer una fusión de hip-hop-belly. Lo primero que deberías hacer es estudiar hip-hop, tomar los movimientos y el estilo, ya con esa base, incorporar el belly dance en una musica adecuada y llevarlo a la práctica. No esperes poner cualquier música y hacer camellos, shimmies, hip-drops y  llamarlo fusión.

El belly dance es una disciplina como cualquier otro estilo dancístico,y estoy a favor de implementar cosas extranjeras a el para enriquecerlo, pero BASTA de usarlo como trampolín  para intentar hacer otro estilo de danza. Solo porque el belly dance es indulgente en cuestiones de edad, anatomía y años de estudio con relación al ballet clásico u otras danzas más estrictas, no significa que lo puedas usar como via para hacer lo que no pudiste.

En países como Rusia y Ucrania, existe un fenómeno llamado "Fantasy belly dance" que son fusiones que jamás imaginariamos! algunas muy MUY buenas, y otras .....mmmm no tanto.
Un performance de este estilo tiene una muy fina línea entre lo maravilloso y lo ridículo, claro está que cada uno tiene una percepción distinta. En este artículo lo único que quiero resaltar es la importacia del belly dance como arte sin contaminaciones externas, pero ya si como yo, quieres entrarle al universo de la mixología, aquí unos tips que a mi me han sido muy útiles:

1.Obtén la música adecuada,(esto es lo más importante) tómate tu tiempo en buscar esa melodía perfecta, es un proceso a veces de meses, y en muchas ocasiones tienes que mezclar dos o tres diferentes tracks para obtener lo que deseas.

2.Usa la ropa correcta, deja a un lado el belly dance, este performance no es un belly dance puro, es una fusión! usar un bedla para bailar heavy metal quedará extraño, es tanto como ver a un mariachi con ropa de "fiebre de sábado por la noche".Crea un outfit adecuado a lo vas a presentar.

3.Suponemos que ya se tienen los conocimientos de danza árabe, pero si vas a fusionarlo con otro estilo es momento de tomar unas clasecitas de el segundo estilo en cuestión ya sea: flamenco, tango, burlesque, hawaiano, hip-hop etc, etc.

4.Intenta que no sea un performance eteeeeernoooo!!! lo que vas a hacer es algo único! es mejor dejar a la gente pidiendo más que aburrirlos con 8 min de una fusión que no tiene ni pies ni cabeza.

5.Antes de llevar tu performance a escena preguntate: ¿Porqué quiero hacer esto, y para que? si obtienes respuestas como: "Porque con esa música de José josé  me enamoré de mi marido" ó "Porque esa rola de OV7 me gustaba desde chica y ahora que estan de moda las fusiones la voy a bailar" . Planteate lo siguiente: ¿Es congruente lo que vas a ejecutar con la musica que has escojido? ¿Será que gente ajena a mi se identificará con lo que voy a hacer? y por último, la danza como lenguaje universal  debe ser capaz gustar a gente no importando el país de donde provengan,es así como un performance de una bailarina de Rusia, Ucrania, Argentina o Brasil puede gustar en otras partes del mundo.

Gracias por leerme y espero estos consejos les sean de utilidad.

Buscas inspiración para hacer fusiones? Checa estos nombres en youtube:

-Amir Thaleb (Tango Oriental)
-Nadia Nikishenko (Fantasy Belly dance)
-Ebony (Hip-hop- belly)
- Daniela Gómez (Salsa- belly)



miércoles, 25 de marzo de 2015

In response to Randa Jarrar: "Why I can´t stand white belly dancers" (En español)


By: Amar Lammar


Me tomé el tiempo de leer este artículo que encontré hace algunos días., junto con el descubrí que había causado una controversia mundial entre la comunidad del Belly dance causando una respuesta masiva en contra de la autora llenándola de insultos, llamándola racista y otros adjetivos más. Estas ofensas NO contribuyen a nada.
Después de leer este artículo, leí la segunda parte de este: "I STILL can´t stand white belly dancers" (AÚN NO soporto a las belly dancers blancas).

Después de reflexionar intenté ponerme en los zapatos de la autora. Como mexicana, me molesta que la gente diga que los nachos son "una comida" en lugar de un snack, que "todos los mexicanos usamos enormes sombreros y somo bigotones", me enoja que a los mexicanos nos den el estereotipo de holgazanes, come frijoles y narcotraficantes. Creo que el post de la autora no tiene que ver con la danza misma, sino con el esterotipo de lo que un "árabe" debe ser., desgraciadamente para ella tomó un mal ejemplo, el belly dance.
Como alguien le respondió anteriormente: "Parece ser víctima de racismo en USA"  blanco de "chistes de árabes", preguntándosele a cada rato -AHH tu eres árabe? y haces el baile de las moneditas?-. En verdad la entiendo pero, esto no es excusa para poner todo su enojo en la ejecutantes de la danza del vientre.


Querida Randa., Tú has mencionado a grandes bailarinas  tales como Taheya Carioca y Fifi Abdo.
Cuando te refieres a ellas, hablas de la época de oro de la danza árabe, cuando esta, era vista por tus compatriotas como "un arte respetable". ¿Podrías darme el nombre de de alguna bailarina "árabe" actual que sea tan famosa como estas grandes artistas del pasado? Estoy segura que no, pero yo te podría hablar de Randa Kamel, una extraordinaria bailarina egipcia que no es famosa entre los suyos pero que ciertamente goza de fama entre "la hermandad blanca de belly dancers" como nos has llamado. ¿Sabías que Taheya Carioca obtuvo el nombre Carioca gracias a que incorporaba unos toques brasileños a sus rutinas? Carioca el el nombre que se le da a los nativos de Rio de Janeiro en Brasil. Fifi Abdo es una bailarina que se mantiene gracias a que bailarinas de todo el mundo quieren aprender de esta artista.Otro buen ejemplo es Samia Gamal quien estudió con una bailarina de ballet Clásico proveniente de Rusia.

También me gustaría saber ¿A quién te refieres cuando dices "bailarinas blancas", a las Europeas, las Latinas, Asiáticas? o tal vez a cualquiera que no sea de origen árabe.A través del estudio y la investigación podemos  encontrar que muy probablemente  la danza del vientre tuvo su origen en las esclavas turcas, así que si bien su origen no es completamente árabe, es verdad que su máximo desarrollo lo obtuvo en Egipto.

Tengo ya 18 años en la danza árabe de los cuales he vivido en países árabes por más de 10 años, y esta es la cosa: Los hoteles y restaurantes prefieren a las belly dancers occidentales antes que a una nativa árabe (de cualquier país árabe que sea) ¿Porqué es esto? Como he mencionado antes, la connotación de una bailarina no es bueno, pero no hay celebración en la que no falte una belly dancer... bodas, cumpleaños etc. Peeeero ¿ Te gustaría tener una bailarina en tu familia? muy probablemente no! Es entonces que este espacio que las bailarinas árabes dejan libre es cubierto por otros candidatos que pasan a ser las belly dancers occidentales/blancas.

Como en todas las profesiones existe gente buena y gente mediocre, supongo que una chica que se pone pantalones "de mi bella genio" se sobre maquilla y se pone unas cuantas monedas en la cadera no podría ser considerada como una profesional, probablemente es una alumna o va a una fiesta de disfraces. El belly dance es una disciplina y como todos los otros estilos de danza requiere entrenamiento y  dedicación para entender la música, los ritmos, y su expresión, esto lleva tiempo, en especial para una chica que no es de origen árabe., sinembargo (y aquí quiero ser muy clara) el haber nacido en un país árabe y crecer escuchando Warda y Um Khalthoum no te hacen bailarina PROFESIONAL automáticamente, te dará el sentimiento sí,  pero no puede garantizar que tengas los movimientos!!! Como dije antes, la danza árabe es una disciplina. Con todo respeto  tu (Mrs. Jarrar) puedes bailar con todos tus amigos y familia y pasarla bien, pero eso no te hace conocedora de belly dance.Puedes apreciar una bailarian buena de una mediocre pero tu juicio estará dictado por tu gusto personal y no desde un punto de vista técnico. Es como decidir quien es guapo ó feo para tí, siendo que la belleza es muy subjetiva dependiendo del gusto de cada persona.

Las chicas blancas ó mejor dicho las bailarinas occidentales seguiremos bailando, en verdad lamento que hayas encontrado en tu camino a bailarinas no tan buenas. De cualquier forma  en nombre de la comunidad mundial del belly dance, he visto extraordinarias bailarinas tanto árabes como occidentales cada una aporta algo nuevo y revolucionario a la danza, "NO necesitas cargarnos sobre tu espalda, nosotras somos los suficientemente fuertes para levantarnos en nuestros dos pies".


Para quien no ha leído el artículo mencionado, aquí el link:http://www.salon.com/2014/03/04/why_i_cant_stand_white_belly_dancers/


martes, 10 de marzo de 2015

Boushret Kheir - Hussain el Jasmi


In video of the month.... we have this shaabi song that is a hit in all the world, sure you know the song, but, you know what it saying? the lyrics are so important for me, it allows me to create a choreo with much more meaning and much more feeling than just move cause I have many steps to show.
I got this lyric from a friend, although sometimes is hard for them to translate some arabic words to english we tried our best to express the idea of the song; If anyone have a better translation, please, share!.

Boushret Kheir

دي فركة كعب وهتعملها
قصاد الدنيا هتقولها
وخد بقى عهد تعدِلها
سكتت كتير
خَدِت ايه مصر بسكوتك
ماتستخسرش فيها صوتك
بتكتب بكره بشروطك
دي بشرة خير
قوم نادي ع الصعيدي وابن اخوك البورسعيدي والشباب لسكندراني اللمه دي لمة رجال
ونا هاجي مع السوهاجي والقناوي والسيناوي والمحلاوي اللي ميه ميه والنوبه الجُمال
ماتوصيش السوايسه الدنيا هايصه كده كده
واللسماعلاويه ياما كادوا العدا
كلمني ع الشراقوه واحنا ويا بعض اقوى
واحنا ويا بعض اقوى
وأملنا كبير
دي فركة كعب وهتعملها
قصاد الدنيا هتقولها
وخد بقى عهد واعدلها
سكتت كتير
بحيري منوفي أو دمياطي
دول اقربلي من اخواتي
حلايب أهل وقرايب
ناديلهم رووح
واكتر حاجه فيها ميزه
نشوف حبايبنا في الجيزه
يا مرحب ألف خطوه عزيزه بناس مطرووح



This is an easy task, and you will do it
To the world you will speak out
And take an oath to make it better
you have been quiet for too long
What did Egypt gain from your silence
Do not you voice
Tomorrow, you will write it under your own conditions
this is a good deed

Go call out for the ‘Saidi’ (from upper Egypt) and your nephew from ‘Port Said’ and the youth from ‘Alexandria’ for this is a gathering of men
And I will come with those from ‘Sohag’ and ‘Qina’ and ‘Sinai’ and ‘ who are the best of the best
No need to double check on the people from Suez, everything is now jumbled together
And the people from ‘Al Ismailiyyah’ who have been through a lot
Talk to me about the people from the East, and together we are stronger
And together we are stronger
And our hope is high

This is an easy task, and you will do it
To the world you will speak out
And take an oath to make it better
you have been quiet for too long
The people from Menouf, or Damyat
Those people are closer to me than my brothers
They are all family and friends
go call out for them
And the thing that stands out most
Is for us to see our beloved ones from Giza
Oh greetings with a thousand paces
towards the people


lunes, 9 de marzo de 2015

Unraveling the ball of yarn

 By: Amir Thaleb

Translation by: Amar Lammar & Ian Els

Its very common since long ago, to listen to opinions about  the “Argentinean Style”, but what is the Argentinean style?? I’ll try to unravel this confusion and clear up the understanding by means of my knowledge, observations, experiences and journeys around the world. Maybe this way I can clear the panorama.
According to the experts on the topic, it’s been told to us that “All the ways that cross the boundaries of its own core, where it was developed, inevitably undergoes normal transformations. This transformation is a process in which it adapts to the new environment that rescued it, creating a new way over the old one."  I think it is a normal process of all things, for example to eat in a Mexican restaurant in any part of the world would not have the same taste as a restaurant in Mexico itself. A Mexican Restaurant in Mexico may be much more orthodox and traditional with its own local essences. But there are people that like this transformation, maybe because the authentic taste is stranger to them. This is a logical deduction  and just maybe we can implement this logic to the transformations of the art itself.
When we watch a famous Egyptian belly dancer in her own country, we get enchanted by this dancer’s movements, gestures and scenic dramatization. Even more so when this dancer is set in a unique atmosphere that only the air of the river Nile, the pyramids and orchestras of 40 or more spectacular musicians can create. It is like a dream but, … What happen when we see the same diva outside of her environment ? What happens when she must perform to an audience that expect more than gestures and charming smiles that only she understands. When she performs for an audience that yearn for the universal concept of dance that require technique, body plasticity and all that charisma that a diva must have? An audience that is not captivated by Middle Eastern atmosphere but only by the art, and nothing of this appear on the stage? It happens from what I’ve seen in many dance festivals around the world, where the audience stand up, leaving the Diva alone. Only those dancers whom understood the importance of adapting their shows into a much more understandable language for the people who weren’t born in Egypt, people who doesn’t speak her tongue and that posses another mentality, achieved success. It is important and necessary to adjust the dance  into a much more universal language, without losing the essence and without thinking that western people don’t understand anything. Many oriental belly dancers have made achieved success, and that’s why their names are in the higher pick of the  chandelier.
Oriental dance posses a great virtue, the virtue of adapting to any environment. This cause the dance to develop, acquiring colors according to the culture, society, daily living  and social manners where it sets.  It’s is exactly why there exist so many varieties of styles in many parts of the world: The Egyptian, the Lebanese, the Russian, the Iraki, the Greek, the Argentinean, the American etc, etc. Through history the individual Middle East cultures were free to each performer to explore beyond their social taboos and the culture where it sets and the technique itself, why? Because it is a dance that goes beyond a single culture, we could as well name it: The dance of all cultures.
Now, it is good to clarify certain points, if we dance a “tradition” we should respect the tradition and there’s no place for inventions otherwise we stop being traditional. The Baladi means ”from within” and is ethnic to the Bedouin, the normal woman who doesn’t make pountee, arabesques or battements. If it is Saidi, it is folklore and you must respect it! In the folklore there’s no place for innovations but there’s space for modernization in expressive language… but if it is oriental, it is free! In this manner, the dancers have created their own styles over decades. As foreign cultures adopted the styles of the dancers who succeeded, these dancers became legendary and left us their legacy.
Now, it is very important to separate the reality and ethnicity of a dance from the fusions, confusions, contaminations and fantasies that are created around the world due to the narcissistic need to “make history” even if it destroy the authentic component of a dance which represents a culture.  And this is where the door of “eternal discussion” opens controversy and criticisms to certain styles, among them the wrongly call “Argentinean style” which I will mention later.
                                         
 It is here where the belly dancers lose their path, believing that because oriental dance have freedom of expression they can jump the traditions and classic ways of this art without any information or consciousness. And these morphologies of the dance are taught to the next generation of dancers, falling victim to the belief that they are taught traditional dances. Today the belly dance is spoiled in many aspects, contaminated not only with expressions that are too far from this dance, but also with clones and coarse imitations of the Egyptians. An example of this is when we see a  German, an Argentinean, a Mexican, or an Asian posing  like an Egyptian. Even worse are the dancers without any personality that become clones of their Idol, making the same gestures, using the same steps and even in a very sick way, styling their hair in the same way as their idols. Belly dance is also contaminated by those “fault- finders” whom doesn’t know anything about dance, who cannot dance themselves, and dedicate their time to spoil the work of others who are able to dance. Belly dance is also contaminated by the tyrannical attitude of some Egyptian teachers  who have the mentality that  “nothing have value if you don’t do it as they tell you to”. These teachers will make you feel inadequate if you don’t dance in their festivals or buy their videos, out of their senile resentment to everything that is different. And many times their words echo in the western girls whom doesn’t even understand what’s been discussed. Nobody posses the absolute truth, even amongst the Egyptians there are contradictions. Nobody is the owner of this art, this art belongs to all, even if you are not Egyptian. We recognize the Egyptian style as the mother of this dance, we choose it because we like it, but be aware! Is not the unique nor irrefutable.

 The Egyptian teachers owe a great deal of respect to the West because even with its faults, the West praise this dance. The West adopted and have provided a better environment to the Egyptian performers than what many Egyptian dancers have in their own country. The West take care of them, recognize and admire them. We fill their  festivals and consume all their dancing proposals. But the Westerners should stop inventing “oriental dances”. Leave the fans, and learn more about the essence and meanings of a tradition. Om Khalthoum  shouldn’t be danced with feathers or fans, the Tarab should not be eaten with jam, oriental dance does not wear Tu-Tu’s. We should learn to respect each other. We cannot live without each other. What would we do without the source? And¿What would they do without our events in which they can display their knowledge? LESS CRITICISM from each side, because we are all ON THE SAME SIDE, less inventions and more knowledge.


This is how the wrongly called “Argentinean style” emerged around the 1990’s, in a place where belly dance wasn’t popular and had to somehow reach a massive audience. It could not be achieved by being orthodox, so we had to search for a language understood by everyone. For sure we over did it and others were responsible to trim and shape this dance even more. Each dancer should take responsibility of their own invention and the criticisms that comes with it. But the Argentinian style found a place in this world just as the Russian style and American style did by the hand of it’s great performers. The Argentinean style has lots of things to be corrected, and there is still time to rectify the path. The so called Argentinean style, is not my style, and I’m not the father of this creature. I do not  teach karate steps nor piques in my Baladi. I like to be faithful to the Arabic culture but not with a narrow mind. This is a dance that invites you to set loose your imagination and create new Styles in a coherent way when possible. In my Shaabi flashmob, the appreciation for the traditional dance was demonstrated with over a million and half views around the world.  In especially Lebanon and Egypt the Arabic people debated if my origin was Egyptian or Lebanese, that’s what it is all about! To be able to enjoy this dance without spoiling it. But it is important to take off our masks, this is not a sect, and even more, the one who criticize is the first one to copy the methods , the choreographies  in internet and more. Let’s be honest, all of us, lets respect the essence and evolve as the art itself evolves in the Middle East. I never met any fault-finding person who had succeeded in life, she spend too much time criticizing. 
                                        In this pic: Amir Thaleb teaching in "Pasión Arica 2015 "
It is time to exhalt the origins, take them as a starting point and let the own being be expressed without the killing the legacies.
Thank you for reading me and I hope this help to clarify the complicated world of all of us who practice this dance. A  wise philosopher said: “lets put in front the intelligence to the narcissism , the intelligence built, and the narcissism destroy you and everything you touch”. Hurray to all the oriental dance styles in all its shapes. If you don’t fancy one shape, there’s no need for you to clap, there’s no need for you to accept it, but also your critic is not needed. We are a free world, lets use this fredom in a wise manner.-Thank you for your Attention.-
Amir Thaleb.


Click the link to Amir's Flashmob on youtube: http://youtu.be/ao27oL-6-Vs

martes, 13 de enero de 2015

The art of Dating in gulf countries...







Happy New Year 2015 guys!

I've been so long gone that probably you tought I abandoned this blog that seems many people read but not many people follow !!

We all know that meeting good decent people is difficult everywhere, however here in Middle East I had strange experiences...
Some time back my friend and colleague Zaina Brown (the writer of "Stories of a travelling belly dancer".) post on her blog an article about  that evil message box in Facebook named "Others" in which some guys declare their love and desires to beautiful girls requesting them "be friends" in Facebook.


Even moooore time back I was via telephone on a very popular radio show in Mexico, it is host by Martha Debayle  in which she will call people of her audience that live outside Mexico to share their experiences... so, ME been in Dubai, and follower of her show I was selected. I remember she asked me about how arabs make their first approach to a girl, since I didn't date much in UAE I was kind of speachless to her questions and here is why:


UAE is a multicultural society; from Indians, pakistanis, philipinos  to all the other arab countries, plus a good number of western society is living here.
 It may seem that there's many fishes in the sea to choose from, but the reality is that the concept of "dating" or "meeting new people" is so different for each culture, soo the difficulty start when a pakistani wanna meet a brazilian, or an egyptian wanna date a german... mixing is good don't take me wrong! but how to start to meet the possible candidate? The problem is,  each one have their own way of : "Hey! haaaaave you met Ted???as Barney in "how I met your mother" show used to hook Ted with a girl.

Approaching # 1
Good old Facebook in "others" inbox

Approaching # 2
Via Whatsapp... yeah! How they get your number in  first place? it is a mistery., sometimes I think they just randomly dial a number and if the profile pic results to be a lady, they go ahead with  a: "Hey sexy! how are u?" and if you don't reply he goes: "Why you don't answer? "  any normal guy will understand after 1 or 2 days of cero replies that the lady is not interested...But hope dies last isn't?

Approaching # 3
Being a western woman with an "open mentality" is not always so good in conservative countries, some guys literally think you will take the chance to be with any male specimen, cause hey! you are western...yeahhh decency is a little bit distracted in that part of the world (or so they think).

Approaching # 4
Being a western single lady as I already said, isn't easy, but being also a Belly dancer is a plus! the misconception and misinformation of the profession lead guys (thankfully not all) to think we are some sort of libertines and are available for nightstands.
The first time I arrive to UAE, I went to a supermarket and the cashier noticed I bought many belly dance DVD's, he asked why I was buying them, so me, proudly ( as I've been doing it in my natal Mexico) said:"Cause I'm a belly dancer" his immediate response was:
"ohh can I have your number? ".

Approaching # 5
After 10 years in gulf countries I noticed there's 2 worlds: The western world, which is the people you make friends with, people from your  country and other countries with more or less same view in life as you., you will find some oriental and asian people as well, normally will be people who travel a lot or had studied abroad their native countries.
And then there's the arabic world: shisha places, restaurants with belly dancers and  arabic singers, arabian nightclubs and some bars that are frequented by arabian people.

In the first world, is more likely you will find someone to date, however most of the single people come to the gulf for a short period of time due to work, so they don't wanna be involve in a serious relationship  for 1 or 2 months and then comeback to their countries (although there's exceptions).

In the second world, there's many so called " business ladies"and the sad part is, some guys with very poor social skills will pop a question like: "¿How much?" which is totally offensive for any woman... the reply will be normally to ignore the poor fellow.
So with this premise, to make yourself respect among arabic people is not something to take lightly, and when you gain your respect and show you're a person of good moral values then you will be able to date.


As I said: To date in gulf countries is certainly an art.....



  








martes, 13 de mayo de 2014

In response to Randa Jarrar "Why I can't stand white belly dancers"




I took the time to read this article that I found these past days. With it I found that this controversial essay had started a massive response from the belly dance enthusiasts all over the world, whome were seriously offended by it as can be noted by remarks like calling the autor racist and even more offensive adjectives. These remarks honestly do not help the situation or contribute  to anything.
After Reading this post, I even read the 2nd part “I STILL can’t stand White belly dancers”
After some reflection I try to place myself in the shoes of this lady: As  a Mexican I hate that someone state that “nachos” is a food instead of a snack, that “all mexicans have huge hats and long mustaches”, I hate that people give us the stereotype of lazy, bean-eaters and drug dealers... I think the author’s posts are not really about the dance itself but the stereotype of what an “arab” should be or look like. Unfortunatly for her she took an example (the belly dance) that doesn’t fit to her complains.
As someone responded to her before: “She seems to be a victim of racism in USA”, a target for arab jokes and have  been frequently asked –“OH! you are Egyptian? Do you belly dance? “ I really understand her, but that is no excuse to pour her anger over performers of raqs sharki.
Dear Randa, you mentioned great dancers such as Taheya Carioca and Fifi Abdo. When referring to these dancers, you are referring to the golden era of bellydancing, when it was seen by arabs as a “respectful art”. Could you give me the name of an Arab bellydancer nowadays, as famous as these amazing artists of the past? I’m sure you can’t, but I can mention to you Randa Kamel, an amazing egyptian dancer, not famous among arab people but certanly famous amongst the  “White BD sisterhood” as you call it. Do you know that Taheya got the name “Carioca” because she added some Brasilian flavours to her dance rountines? Carioca is the name given to the native people of Rio de Janeiro in Brazil. Fifi Abdo remains in the market thanks to the bellydancers around the world who want to learn from this fantastic dancer. Another good example is Samia Gamal who took dancing lessons from a russian classical ballet dancer.
I would also like to know to whom you refer when you mention “white” bellydancers? Do you refer to Europeans, Asians, Latins?  Or perhaps any lady who doesn’t have an arab origin? Through study and research of the history of bellydancing we could gather that most probably raqs sharki have it`s real origin from the turkish slaves, which means it is not totally arabic in origin, although yes, it is true that the real development of it was in Egypt.
I’ve been into belly dance for 17 years already, from those I’ve been living in Arab countries for ten years. And here is the thing, hotels and restaurants prefer non Arab belly dancers over Arabic ones. Why is that? As I mentioned before, the connotation of being a dancer nowadays isn’t good. There`s no celebration in which a bellydancer is not hired to give a show. People love to have a dancer at their wedding, birthday etc, but would you like to have a bellydancer in your family? Most probably NOT..This space , left by Arabic girls in the industry, will then surely be filled by other candidates, as it so happens to be : Western/White bellydancers.

As in all professions, there will good and mediocre people, I guess a girl that dress in genie pants, heavy make up and a few coins cannot be called a “profesional bellydancer”. She may be a student or go to a costume party, cause belly dance is a discipline and like any other form of dance,  need training and dedication to understand the music, the beats and feelings expressed in the songs. This takes time especially for a non arab girl, however (here I want to be very clear) to be born in an Arab country and grow up listening to Warda and Om Khalthoum doesn’t make you a PROFESSIONAL dancer, it will give you the feeling yes!, but surely wont guarantee you have the moves! As I said before, to be pro is a discipline. With all respect, you can dance with all your friends and family and have fun but that doesn’t make you profesional or a knowledgeable judge of the trade. You may appreciate a good dancer from a mediocre one, but your judgment will be ruled by your personal taste and not from a technical point of view. Its the same as to decide, who’s ugly or beautiful in our eyes, which obviously differ from person to person.
White girls, or better say “western girls”  will keep dancing! I’m sorry if you have encountered girls that were not performing good enough, anyhow on behalf of the belly dance community I’ve seen outstanding western as well as arab belly dancers. Each one add something new and revolutionary to the art, you don’t have to carry us on your back, we are a strong enough to stand on our own feet.


If you haven't read the post here is the link:http://www.salon.com/2014/03/04/why_i_cant_stand_white_belly_dancers/